Personal development has totally changed my life in the past 20 years, and it’s definitely safe to say that I’m obsessed with it. Even to the point that it affects how I celebrate my birthday! When I was a kid, my parents would make a big deal out of birthdays so they were always special. I’d start celebrating my birthday on July 1 and make it last all month. This is definitely a tradition I carried into adulthood, but it was all about me – what food I’d eat, where we’d go and what gifts I wanted. This has changed drastically over the years, and I celebrate my birthdays very differently now.
My personal development journeyI was first introduced to personal growth in my mid-20s. My only exposure to it before then was Tony Robbins infomercials and walking past the self-help section of the bookstore. My small town hometown community didn’t exactly promote growth, if you know what I mean. Then, as part of my MBA program, I was assigned a stack of books to read about how to succeed in business, and I began to be exposed to a truly transformative way of thinking for the first time. When I started out as an independent consultant for a direct sales company, I was technically running my own business. But I was really a freelance salesperson, so it was more like training for future projects. I soon noticed that I had a lot of self-sabotage in my head that was preventing me from creating the results I wanted. The senior leaders began recommending books on personal development to teach me how to succeed. Although I dismissed it at first, I started to see similarities between these self-help books and those written by the CEOs and Fortune 500 business owners I’d had to read back in my MBA days. That’s when the penny finally dropped. Your business is an extension of who you are in life. The way you do anything in life is the way you do everything in life. If your personal life is a mess then your business will follow suit.
Employee mindset vs entrepreneur mentalityThere is a big difference between these two perspectives. I realized at an early age that I didn’t want someone else controlling my life. I knew I wanted to succeed as an entrepreneur, but I didn’t know how. So, I took the books that had been recommended and used them as a playbook for my life. I adopted those authors as my coaches in both my personal and business lives. From that point forward, my obsession was born. I became obsessed with mastering the skills, tools and mindset shifts that are written about in those books. Over the last 15 years, I’ve read at least one book per month (sometimes one a week) to help me accomplish my life goals. I even stopped watching TV and movies and reading fiction books because I became so enthralled with creating my own magical life. I preferred this to merely watching other people creating their dream lives.
How personal development has changed meThis journey has created massive life changes for me. I’ve been able to completely shift my financial situation and rewrite the financial legacy that I will leave to future generations. On top of that, I’ve learned:
- The power of manifestation
- The laws of attraction, action and gestation
- Mindset and emotional management
- How the human psyche works
- Emotional intelligence
- How to work with people
- How to lead myself
- What to expect from others
- How not to depend on others
- How not to react to the world around me